Drug Addict Sibling, WHAT should I do to support, Anything?!?
I have a very close sibling who is a drug addict and has struggled or be addicted for years!! We have done the whole crying, screaming, begging, pleading, bribing, everything!! At this point pretty much everyone has labeled him as an user and he has little or limited contact with the family.
I perceive so terrible for him and his circumstances and often question is it A) a disease he CANNOT control or
B) he is NOT ready to catch help
he does not admit he has a problem and has admit to doing it just for the "high" He does EXTREMELY selfish things & is ALWAYS doing ANYTHING at anyone's cost to get his drugs. WHAT is my part as a loving, concerned sister?? :(
you cant help someone that doesnt want it. Sorry but he has made his choice and nought you do can change his mind until he wants to change it himself. Back off and preserve yourself healthy and strong cuz he is going to need someone if does decide to get verbs one day.
As a recovering addict I know how hard it is too accept the fact that there's a problem.
It adjectives relies on the addict to get help or get forced assistance.
I only got help when I was hospitalized twice.
Hopefully your sibiling wont hold to wait to get help they way I did.
One entry you can do is not contribute to it.
don't give them any money, or rides for drugs. Nothing.
But the hardest part about addiction is that it is all roughly will power and the person wanting to change.
You cant alter him he has to do it himself. go to Al-Anon if you need that support
not much you can do. i,ve a cousin(not close) that has been that way for 30+ years. two of her four sisters will not see her. it,s rough.
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When you're an addict the drug controls you. If your brother won't own up he is an addict, he's not ready for help. Your description of him is a perfect descripton of an user and actually is just about how we describe ourselves when we have an NA rendezvous and read "Who is an addict" each week at the meetings.
What is your part? Don't help him to save using. Don't enable him. Don't give him money. Dont give him a place to sleep. The sooner he hits bottom, the sooner he has to facade his problem and hopefully he will do something about it. It may seem cruel, but realize the longer he stays out there, the worse his addiction will get. The more he uses drugs, the more potential he is to expose himself to severe consequences. As we say, and it's the truth, our future is jails, instituions and death. Believe sister. Don't prolong it by helping him out. Let him become homeless. That may get him face what has happened to his life. It might not, but it might procure him to hit bottom faster than if you give him a place to stay. If he goes to jail, don't bail him out. Make him pay adjectives his consequences. He needs to face them as soon as possible. Rescuing him usually only prolongs the time that he will use drugs. I've seen it over and over again. Every bone contained by your body and your heart will want to run to him to rescue him, but you have to stop yourself for his sake. To rescue him may be the death of him. And I mean that literally, not figuratively. I've been to 3 funerals this historic year. Two were relapses and one was from someone who just couldn't put it together and died from it. Death is very much a realness.
Your family can try an intervention. This approach has worked and some people have gone into treatment. However, it appears from what you own said, that your brother may not respond to that. I would suggest that you try to get some support for yourself to deal with him. I have provided a association for Nar-Anon. It is for family members of drug addicts. They have meeting for support. It will be very helpful. If they don't have meetings within your area, you could always try Al-anon, and just don't mention that it's for drugs because Al-anon is for alcohol. It's still the same method needed for support, a short time ago a different substance. I provided a link for that too. Use one of these groups while dealing with him. Believe me you will need it so that you can keep your skipper straight and not be manipulated by him and do what's best for him and keep yourself well.
Good Luck. I hope he gets into treatment soon. Source(s): A recovering user of 15 years
http://nar-anon.org/
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/…
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I perceive so terrible for him and his circumstances and often question is it A) a disease he CANNOT control or
B) he is NOT ready to catch help
he does not admit he has a problem and has admit to doing it just for the "high" He does EXTREMELY selfish things & is ALWAYS doing ANYTHING at anyone's cost to get his drugs. WHAT is my part as a loving, concerned sister?? :(
you cant help someone that doesnt want it. Sorry but he has made his choice and nought you do can change his mind until he wants to change it himself. Back off and preserve yourself healthy and strong cuz he is going to need someone if does decide to get verbs one day.
As a recovering addict I know how hard it is too accept the fact that there's a problem.
It adjectives relies on the addict to get help or get forced assistance.
I only got help when I was hospitalized twice.
Hopefully your sibiling wont hold to wait to get help they way I did.
One entry you can do is not contribute to it.
don't give them any money, or rides for drugs. Nothing.
But the hardest part about addiction is that it is all roughly will power and the person wanting to change.
You cant alter him he has to do it himself. go to Al-Anon if you need that support
not much you can do. i,ve a cousin(not close) that has been that way for 30+ years. two of her four sisters will not see her. it,s rough.
http://www.boddunan.com/component/conten…
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When you're an addict the drug controls you. If your brother won't own up he is an addict, he's not ready for help. Your description of him is a perfect descripton of an user and actually is just about how we describe ourselves when we have an NA rendezvous and read "Who is an addict" each week at the meetings.
What is your part? Don't help him to save using. Don't enable him. Don't give him money. Dont give him a place to sleep. The sooner he hits bottom, the sooner he has to facade his problem and hopefully he will do something about it. It may seem cruel, but realize the longer he stays out there, the worse his addiction will get. The more he uses drugs, the more potential he is to expose himself to severe consequences. As we say, and it's the truth, our future is jails, instituions and death. Believe sister. Don't prolong it by helping him out. Let him become homeless. That may get him face what has happened to his life. It might not, but it might procure him to hit bottom faster than if you give him a place to stay. If he goes to jail, don't bail him out. Make him pay adjectives his consequences. He needs to face them as soon as possible. Rescuing him usually only prolongs the time that he will use drugs. I've seen it over and over again. Every bone contained by your body and your heart will want to run to him to rescue him, but you have to stop yourself for his sake. To rescue him may be the death of him. And I mean that literally, not figuratively. I've been to 3 funerals this historic year. Two were relapses and one was from someone who just couldn't put it together and died from it. Death is very much a realness.
Your family can try an intervention. This approach has worked and some people have gone into treatment. However, it appears from what you own said, that your brother may not respond to that. I would suggest that you try to get some support for yourself to deal with him. I have provided a association for Nar-Anon. It is for family members of drug addicts. They have meeting for support. It will be very helpful. If they don't have meetings within your area, you could always try Al-anon, and just don't mention that it's for drugs because Al-anon is for alcohol. It's still the same method needed for support, a short time ago a different substance. I provided a link for that too. Use one of these groups while dealing with him. Believe me you will need it so that you can keep your skipper straight and not be manipulated by him and do what's best for him and keep yourself well.
Good Luck. I hope he gets into treatment soon. Source(s): A recovering user of 15 years
http://nar-anon.org/
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/…
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